最近，程序員的相親之路頗為坎坷……

繼程序員穿特步相親被拒后，又一程序員在肯德基相親被拉黑！

八卦之魂熊熊燃燒

這位程序員憤憤不平發帖吐槽：

自己是程序員、工資1萬+，第一次約會請女孩吃79元的肯德基套餐，卻被拉黑，這女孩也太物質！他想不通，“節儉不對嗎？”

一個看《戰狼》、一個看《伯德小姐》的兩人果然注定無緣走到一起……

然而吃完肯德基，男生自我感覺良好，于是有了以下對話……

這收錢速度，麻溜的，相個親還凈賺21塊……

對此網友各抒己見，紛紛表示活該：

說到底，一場相親能否成功，最重要的還是兩人三觀是否相合。

除此之外，互相尊重、充滿誠意才能給彼此留下個好印象。

作為關心大家的小可愛，當然也要為你的約會操心！穿什么、說點啥，統統學起來！

穿什么·女生版

Theeverygirl網站請約會專家給女生第一次約會的穿搭建議。一個基本準則是：

Always check out the venue online to get a feel for the setting! A great rule of thumb for the first date: Choose a color or outfit that you are often complimented on.

你需要在網上查看約會場地，選擇合適的服飾。初次約會的穿衣準則是：選擇你穿上經常會被夸獎的顏色或者打扮。

盛裝打扮去和約會對象喝杯咖啡確實不太合適。我們來分場合告訴小仙女們，第一次約會這么穿。

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a casual daytime coffee date

日常咖啡廳約會

▌關鍵詞：舒服、隨性

The ultimate goal? To achieve the effortless “I just threw this on” vibe.

最終目標？那就是達到“我就是隨便穿了一件”的效果。

Casual staples: Jeans, converse or flats, t-shirts, and sunnies are great options for a casual daytime setting.

隨性裝束：牛仔褲，帆布鞋或者平底鞋、T恤、太陽鏡都是白天日常約會的好選擇。

An easy dress with some sort of jacket (depending on your style—a leather cropped bomber, a cardigan, a denim jacket, etc.) is always a great outfit combination. You can do flats or wedges depending on the setting and what you’re most comfortable in.

簡潔的內搭配上小外套（根據你的風格，可選皮夾克、羊毛開衫、牛仔外套等）是不錯的搭配。可以根據餐廳風格或者個人愛好選擇平底鞋或者坡跟鞋。

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a dinner date

晚餐

▌關鍵詞：精致、舒適

Don’t be tempted to wear anything that you can’t walk in, eat in, or breathe in!

千萬不要穿不方便走路、吃飯，甚至緊得讓你喘不上氣的衣服。

Stand out on a more formal occasion by adding a statement piece of jewelry or a fun accessory as a conversation starter.

你可以戴一些點睛的珠寶配飾，或者讓人忍不住想評價一番的有趣配飾，這會讓你更出眾。

Comfort is key no matter what. If you feel good in what you’re wearing you’ll look good; confidence is everything. For a dressy dinner date, I’d go with a shift dress or skinny jeans, a silk camisole, blazer, and heels.

無論如何，舒適是最重要的。感覺舒服會讓你看上去更得體。如果是較為正式的晚餐，我會穿一條直筒連衣裙或者一件緊身牛仔褲、一件絲綢背心、小外套和高跟鞋。

For a casual dinner, boyfriend jeans and a cute blouse or tee are always a great bet.

對于一般的晚餐，男友風牛仔褲、漂亮的襯衫或者T恤會是不錯的選擇。

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a post-work drinks date

下班喝杯東西

▌關鍵詞：別太職業范兒

你師哥說：“下班我在公司樓下等你，一起去喝杯什么吧。”你就穿著你的工裝赴約？不要……

Bring something to loosen up your work clothes a bit.

帶些配飾讓工裝看著不那么職業范兒。

For a mix of office appropriate meets date night, opt for a dress or skirt with a feminine top under a jacket. (You can remove the jacket when you leave the office!) Switch that big work bag to a clutch for an easy transition to evening.

對于下班后的約會，可以在外套中穿一條裙子或者非常女性化的上衣配短裙。（下班時你可以脫掉外套）把工作背的大包換成手持小包，輕松上陣。

Don’t worry about being business casual! Work attire is totally fine. A classic, fitted blazer is perfect for the occasion when worn the right way!

如果你穿著商務休閑裝，也別擔心！工作服裝也沒問題。如果你搭配合適，那么經典的、合身的西裝外套也一樣OK！

以上這三個約會場合的穿搭，你都get了嗎？如果還有什么其他建議，約會專家說：

Wear something that truly makes you feel like the best version of yourself.

穿一些讓你感覺狀態最好的衣服。

穿什么·男生版

聊完了小仙女約會穿搭，下面就趕緊給男生們送上初次約會穿搭指南，可千萬別因為穿錯了衣服，錯過心愛的姑娘喲。

咱們先來看看，在第一次約會的時候，有哪些雷絕對不能踩。

➤ 破洞衣服、新奇T恤就算了吧

Do not wear clothes with holes in them or novelty T-shirts with pit stains, unless a life of celibacy is what you are after.

千萬別穿帶洞的衣服或者帶著污漬的新奇T恤，除非你想注孤生。

➤ 答應我，別穿皺皺巴巴的牛仔褲好么

Jeans may be fine for the occasion, but be sure they are wrinkle-free and that they fit well.

第一次約會穿牛仔褲未嘗不可，不過千萬別皺皺巴巴的，合身才行。

➤ 嗯，請正常系好褲腰帶

If your belt buckle is below your crotch, you should not walk out of that door.

如果你的褲腰帶都耷拉到胯下了，嗯，你就別出門嚇人了。

➤ 太寬松、太貼身的都不行

Huge and oversized is not the way to go, nor is the too-tight and shiny approach.

超級寬松和超大尺碼型的衣服也不是正確打開方式，當然了太緊身、閃閃亮的衣服也不行。

避開了上面的坑，就要給各位男同學送上初次約會穿搭的正確打開方式了！

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清爽的頭發

頭發清爽干凈，身上沒有異味，認真刮過胡子，臉上不爆皮、不油膩膩，保持好的精神狀態，一般都會給對方留下不錯的印象。

One thing to remember when getting ready for a first date is that you should get a haircut and be sure to shave. Be sure your nails are trimmed and clean.

第一次約會一個注意事項就是一定要理發、剃須。指甲一定要剪短，指甲縫一定要干凈。

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合適的衣服

男生第一次約會的時候衣服怎么穿，也要根據約會場所來選擇。

♥ 喝咖啡、看電影

If you are meeting for a casual coffee, I would suggest a nice T-shirt (casual shirt, sweater in winter) and darker denim jeans with a nice shoe.

如果你們一起喝咖啡，穿一件得體的T恤（休閑款襯衫，冬天的話選擇一件合身的毛衣），搭配深藍色牛仔褲和一雙合適的鞋子剛剛好。

T恤等最好選擇黑白灰棕色等純色款，面料選擇柔軟舒適型的，看起來清爽自然。

白襯衫是不會錯的選擇，午后陽光掃過白衣少年的發梢，分分鐘俘獲女孩子的芳心。

♥ 非正式的晚餐/午餐

If you are meeting for lunch or a low-key dinner, I would suggest your best fitting jeans or casual pants and a casual blazer or jacket over a pressed shirt with a great pair of shoes.

如果你們是共進午餐或低調晚餐，那可以選擇最合身的牛仔褲或休閑褲，休閑外套、夾克套在熨燙齊整的襯衫外，穿一雙好鞋。

♥ 正式場合

If you are going to a more formal location, such as a chic restaurant, the theater or ballet, a more formal dress code naturally applies.

如果你們要去更正式的場合，比如時尚餐廳、劇院或看芭蕾舞，就要穿著很正式了。

A nicely tailored suit and tie in a neutral shade such as navy or charcoal gray and a smart pair of shoes will have you looking the part of Mr. Right in no time.

裁剪合身的西裝，藏青色或暗灰色領帶，及一雙錚亮的鞋子，你就是那個他了。

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干凈的鞋子

鞋子是女生很注意的細節，所以一雙干凈合適的鞋子，非常關鍵。具體選哪一類的鞋子，要根據整體風格搭配。

Nice shoes are also a must. Whether you wear sneakers or wingtips, be sure they are clean and polished.

鞋子也很重要。不論你穿運動鞋還是尖頭鞋，都要保持鞋子的干凈和光亮。

A man, who takes care of his appearance, including a “small” detail such as footwear, is likely to take care of his apartment, his car, and in the future, her!

一個在意打理外表、包括鞋子在內的小細節的男性，也一定會照顧好他的房子、他的車，還有未來的她。

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說了這么多，黃金法則只有一條：男孩子干凈整潔就好！

But one golden rule is that no matter how casual your destination, looking clean, crisp, and put together cannot hurt. Even if you are just grabbing a slice of pizza or playing miniature golf, you should dress neatly.

無論你約會的場合有多么隨意，看起來干凈、清爽對你都不會有什么壞處，這是一條黃金法則。即便你只是去吃一塊披薩或者打個迷你高爾夫，你都應該穿著整潔。

聊什么

不熟悉的兩人第一次見面多少有些尷尬，怎樣愉快地聊天，同時又能了解到對方的一些情況呢？

下面這些話題供你參考……

Your must-haves in a woman/man

想找什么樣的男生/女生

First dates are all about determining whether or not you two make a good match.

初次約會的目的就是為了決定你們倆合不合適在一起。

During the first date, don't hesitate to ask what he/she looks for in the person he/she dates.所以，不要猶豫，大膽問對方喜歡什么樣的男生/女生。

This way you'll have a good idea as to whether or not you two should take things further. Of course, don't make any rash decisions if you don't fit the mold entirely.

這樣你可以知道你倆該不該繼續發展。當然如果你們不完全符合彼此的標準，也別太快做決定。

Future plans

未來計劃

While you shouldn't pry about marriage and children, asking about his or her future plans can lead to a good conversation.

不要過早打聽對方結婚生子的計劃，但聊聊未來規劃總是好的。

Compare your future plans and see if you two have similar or complementary ideas.

可以對比一下你們的未來規劃，看看你倆是否有相似的計劃。

Make sure the conversation isn't too focused on marriage and children, or else it can become too heavy for a first date.

話題最好不要過多聚焦于家庭和孩子，這對于初次約會來說有些“超綱”了。

Jobs

工作

Learning about someone's job can say a lot about the person.

通過一個人的工作，你能了解到很多事情。

What's your career path? Do you like what you do?

比如問問對方：你的職業規劃是怎樣的？你喜歡現在的工作嗎？

These are all great questions that will keep the conversation lively. Maybe you two have similar career aspirations.

這些都是很好的聊天話題。說不定你們兩有共同的職業理想呢。

Family

家庭

Don't get into the mindset that you're trying to inch your way into his or her family.

不要表現得好像你想介入對方的家庭。

Instead, ask simple questions, such as: Do you have any siblings? Are you close to your mom and dad?

只問些簡單問題就好，比如，你有兄弟姐妹嗎？你和父母關系很親密嗎？

Family questions are a good way to determine how family has shaped a person and whether or not their family structure is one that would eventually welcome you.

這些問題有助于你了解對方家庭是如何影響他的成長的，你也可以知道這樣的家庭是否會愉快地接納自己。

Personal favorites

興趣愛好

Getting to know each others' favorite things is a good way to get a conversation started and keep it going.

了解對方的喜好是很好的開啟話題的方式。

Ask about favorite movies, foods, music, celebrities, pets, books and more.

問問對方喜歡的電影、美食、音樂、明星、寵物、書籍等等。

Knowing someone's favorite things helps you to plan dates in the future and also further your conversations.

了解對方的喜好也有助于你們計劃將來的約會內容。

Current events

最近的新鮮事

There's always something interesting and newsworthy going on in the world or even in your local neighborhood.

無論是在世界各地，還是在你身邊，每時每刻都有妙趣橫生甚至可以上新聞的故事在上演。

While you'll want to avoid political or overly religious topics, anything else is game.

除了政治或宗教色彩較濃的話題，其他聊什么都好。

This is the perfect opportunity to share your opinions back and forth.

這是很好的機會來交流你們對事情的看法。

Traveling

旅行

It's always interesting to talk about travel and vacations. Maybe you've been somewhere exotic and want to talk about it, and maybe your date has a travel story worth sharing.

旅游和假期總是有趣的話題。也許你曾經去過異域風情的地方，想和對方分享自己的經歷，反之亦然。

You can also talk about future travel plans or places that the two of you dream of being able to visit one day.

也可以談論未來的旅游計劃，也許將來有一天你們倆可以一起去呢。

好了，只能幫你到這兒了，祝大家約會愉快！